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A Participant Reflects on Tender's Training

This past Spring (13th June, 2013), I attended a six-hour Tender training: “Awareness and Good Practice when working with women experiencing violence and abuse in relationships.” Prior to attending the Tender training, I was an active participant in sexual health / healthy relationship workshops and facilitations, but still felt I lacked a necessary depth of understanding of how to professionally address domestic abuse / violence.
When Everybody is Listening...

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When Everybody is Listening...

This past month, Tender got wind of an interview that was conducted with two comedians and one comedy critic following the Edinburgh Fringe Festival. The three women were asked about their views on feminism and being a female in the industry, but the conversation quickly spiraled into what many have called an offensive and insensitive rant promoting the sexualisation and objectification of women. The three women went on to blame young women who may change their mind ‘too late’ and joke that you have to ‘have the right look’ to be a victim of rape.

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Final Visits Completed - National Partnership.

This stage of my journey saw me visit Essex change,- part of 'Relate' in Chelmsford. This was an after school session with a very active and engaged group of students. The young people were responsive and connected with the work right up until 6pm, - a real testament to the team.

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My Best Friend: 3 down 7 to go!

Last Sunday Sophie ran the Trent Park Triffic Trail 10k. It was a lovely run on a cool morning through the woods and heathland of Trent Park.

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An Opportunity Missed - New Clause 20

On June 11th, the House of Commons debated and voted on amendments to the Children and Families Bill. One of these amendments was New Clause 20, which would make it a statutory requirement for schools to educate children about sex and relationships. It was an opportunity for the government to increase their efforts against issues such as domestic violence and the so-called “rape culture” which some say is established amongst young people.

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My Best Friend

I have been the Director of Tender since 2009 and before that I was the education manager. Just to prove I commit to things for the long term, I would like to tell you about my best friend of 36 years.

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Words Words Words

The power of words. They can motivate us. They can change us. They can degrade us. They can wound us. There are some words we will never forget.

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Maryam Hassan - Standing Up

Our latest 'Standing Up' blog comes from Maryam who has been spending her midterm break working to help out Tender.

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3 Ways He Held Her At Gunpoint

Tender youth ambassador and regular blogger Erica McKoy writes her response to Leslie Morgan Steiner's Ted Talk 'Why domestic violence victims don't leave'. You can watch the Ted Talk by clicking the image at the end of the post.

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Tender's Erica Sits Down With Actor Bill Ward

Tender Youth Board member Erica McKoy speaks to Bill Ward about why he is an advocate of domestic violence prevention.
Seventeen vs. Rookie: A Look at Two Very Different Teenage Guides to Life

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Seventeen vs. Rookie: A Look at Two Very Different Teenage Guides to Life

The #1 article on the Seventeen Magazine website right now is titled "20 Things You Shouldn’t Say to Him." Following this title is the wisdom of real and “attractive” teen boys, filling in the blank for “I hate it when a girl…” with answers like “cries,” “burps,” “talks about her problems,” and my personal favourite, from Leo age 17, “Doesn’t have confidence in herself.” Now Leo, why on earth would a girl not have confidence in herself, especially after reading articles like these and flipping through teen magazines that flaunt unrealistic body images and unattainable clothes and products?

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The Internship Part Two

Over a month has gone by since I arrived here in London and already I feel so comfortable in this city and working here at Tender. This internship has proved to be an eye-opening and inspiring experience. Here are a couple things I have been up to.

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If a friend is experiencing abuse

In response to a few recent requests for information about what to do if your friend is experiencing an unhealthy relationship, Tender Campaign Manager Doireann Larkin has written a post with some things to c

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No Woman Should Be Missed Out

When I started running the Women’s Project at Asylum Aid eight years ago, I was surprised to find out how women are treated in the asylum system. Previously I had worked at Victim Support and I knew there had been lots of progress made in how the police and Crown Prosecution Service worked with women who reported rape or domestic violence. There were even new laws to support them.

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My Body is Not Public Property

When the word abuse is tossed around, most people immediately think of physical acts like slapping and hitting or verbal attacks such as yelling or threats. However, if someone takes an inappropriate picture of a woman without her knowledge or consent and posts it on the internet for the public to see, is it a form of abuse? How does it affect a woman's image and reputation?
Second Week in London, First Week at Tender

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Second Week in London, First Week at Tender

Hello! I am Ruby, the brand new intern here at Tender. It is hard to believe that only two weeks ago I was getting on a plane to leave my hometown, Minneapolis, Minnesota, with nothing but a huge backpack and a purse stuffed with maps, books and travel guides. I am taking a gap year after completing two years at Oberlin College in order to travel and work overseas. Since I arrived I have stayed a week in a hostel, found a flat and moved in, explored quite a bit of the city, and I have spent four days starting my internship here. It is incredible when I think about how much I have already done and learned.

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Antonella Stephenson - Standing Up: Respect

"Esteem for or a sense of the worth of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability: I have great ******* for her judgment." - Webster Definition
Work Experience - Erica

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Work Experience - Erica

Hi, my name is Erica and I’m a Youth Ambassador at Tender. Over the period of two weeks I did some work experience at Tender, and had a great time helping out a charity that I support strongly.

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Nomalizwe Byndon - An American Girl working in London

I came to London to intern at Tender. I graduated from Nebraska and was interested in working in the human rights field. I wanted to learn the ins and outs of what it takes to work successfully in this field on an international level. Tender seem like a good place to start given their impressive history of where they started and where they are now.

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Fiona Hyde - Standing Up

Do you think that people should be judged for what’s between their ears rather than what’s between their legs? Yes? Well, congratulations, you’ve passed the test! You are a feminist.
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